Thoughts..

The weekend was nice. I attended a Christening and reception of one of my best male friends children. He is a popular guy so many came from far and wide to attend this event. I showed up fashionably late, which I was really trying not to do, but I guess it is in the genes. You know I like to observe and over analyze things( some of the side effects of my obsessive compulsive disorder) so while at the reception I am observing many things. There were children everywhere. Nicely dressed in there church outfits, behaving themselves. I looked at the mothers, they looked happy, tired but happy. Then I start to think “Maybe I am ready to settle down and have kids, it does not look like so much work.” 45 minutes passed and all hell broke loose, these nice children started to move around, make all kinds of unnecessary noise, cry. It was then I realized that my eye was twitching. The noise was more than the music. The mothers looked like they wanted to be in the other room dancing but just cant break away. Then it dawned on me that I may not be ready. Especially not ready to take this on by myself. How I go manage without husband? My cousin was on the way to the dance floor with me, she has a 5 month daughter but she also has a good husband that does not mind holding his daughter while she goes and breaks a sweat on the dance floor. I would love to have children at a young age just because it seems like the best thing to do, but am I ready to leave selfishness, and impatient behind?

Next observation: Some women na ashawo!!! I know men can confuse us. Tell us sweet things and we may fall, but once we figure out that he has a woman it is time to smarten up and let that man go. We NEED to do this just to keep the integrity of relationships in check. What will happen if all men were able to have women on the side without the threat of being exposed to there main girl? They will continue to cheat and even cheat more. That being said, as WOMEN let us respect ourselves and not deal with a man who are in relationships. I know it is a dog eat dog world and we have to fight for what we want but remember that the shoe may be on the other foot sometime in the future. Trust me it will not feel good. Charma is inevitable.

Another thought: I use to think that it is ok to marry outside of your ethnic group whether African with African American, or Nigerian with a Senegalese. These days I am beginning to rethink that. There is a homegurl who is dating from a different country within Africa. At public events that she attends he is all into her. When she is not around he is all into every female around. I honestly believe that he wants to be with her. They have been together about 3 years but he just does not seem to know how to stay faithful. Is it my duty to tell the homegurl about her guys indiscretion? Most people tell me to stay out of it. That she knows her man, and let her find out on her own. I would not want that for me. If you see my man messing up and we are friends drop a sister a hint or two. Anyway, no one can even tell her anything because she is not part of that community. She is an outsider....the guy would not be able get away with it if they were from the same community. At the least, the gossip would have reached her.

Anyway, I am writing this in between work and I just got real busy....

Getting Active

Last week American Heart Association kicked of START!Walking Day employees were to wear there sneakers to work and walk at least 30 minutes to support the fight against heart disease, the No. 1 killer in the U.S. There were lots of companies here in the Atlanta area that participated, but my company unfortunately did not get involved. I assume they are to busy trying to make the balance sheet look good to investors that they do not have time for such activities.

In the name of getting active Ladies of NOW hosted a "Get Out and Get Active Day", a day where male/female come out and partake in different activities. Tennis, Soccer, Running. The turn out was successful, I hung out with people I do not get to see on a regular. I also participated in the activities(have to keep some kind of shape:)) The Evite that was sent out specifically said come out and get active, we did have a BBQ but the main focus was to make sure you come ready to be physically active. But trust chicks... some of them came to the field with 3 inch heels, make-up, short skirts. They came ready to chill, I'm not hating but come on!?! The men came out ready. Whether to play football(soccer), tennis or just to run the track. Of course the men enjoyed seeing fine ladies but there is really a time and a place. Some Ladies came out with workout attire on but we put the nice ones on, combed our hair, maybe a little more than normal lip gloss but we were ready to sweat a little. Anyway bottom line, statistically women do outlive men, but in a lot of cases the women begin to look older than there significant others. We should try to keep ourselves up through heart healthy activities, if not for your health but for our outer beauty to be up to par.

The pics have not yet been uploaded, but check the website by Wednesday. Have a great Tuesday and remember Get Out and Get Active.

Pointing is rude:).....

Random

Another Friday.... Is life just a complete cycle? Seems like last Friday was just the other day. Again I am going to complain about going to work early M-F. Not that I am spoiled, just want to complain:) Anyway, should I be ashamed to say that I have tuned out the current Democratic Squabble? I am sure the Republicans are sitting back and laughing at how non loyal Democrats can be. Historically, Democrats are know for not backing up each other in elections. ( The comments posted on this blog are a collaboration of my thoughts and some around me. Even some conversation and comments I hear on the elevator. These comments should not be used against me personally to judge my character or my views) November should just come around so those who have legal status in the USA and can vote and we can learn the fate of America. I want to see some kind of darn changes. I was pretty much not nonchalant about our gas prices, but since other things around me are also going up, i.e food, cloths and my interest income is going down i.e. savings account rates, cd rates and the market just SUCKS I get a little pissed when I pump gas and my bill is almost $60.00!!! I have a sedan, not a truck. SO, whomever needs to get in office and make my pockets feel better, my womb safe and in my control, and this country not seem so cocky( and of course keep us safe) then they need to get there and very quick.

Thursday

Today feels like hump day. Throat a little scratchy, do not want to go to work( never really do). On a brighter note, the weather has actually gotten better here. It is a cold Spring. I want to bring out my sandals, but my toes may not be to happy to feel the breeze. By noon, the sun will be busting out of the clouds and I will wish I put sandals on...

This week has actually passed by fairly quickly, this weekend I have a to attend a baby shower, training session and a Ladies of NOW event. So no laying up this weekend

Janelle Monae...

So I did a little research on Ms. Monae. She was actually on Purple Ribbon Records( owned by Outkast) now with The Wondaland Arts Society, originally from NYC(I think) now in Atlanta. Only around 21. Art Nouveau Magazine named Janelle Monae as one of five artists you'll know by 2008. So I guess they were correct, I now know about her:)

Liked her music at the ballet so I would recommend everyone to check out her site.
www.janellemonae.com

Out of the funk

Long time o, I have been busy this week. So today Wednesday you will hear about my past weekend. I finally got out of my funk with the help of .......( wouldn't you like to know:)) Saturday me and a couple of friends saw BIG and The Atlanta Ballet at the Fox Theatre. I was a little confused at first of how the stage was even set up. Big Boi on one side of the stage and tall men and women in white tights on the other side of the stage. Each in there on world. By the time they played "Bombs over Baghdad" the whole show started to come together. I really enjoyed it. A concert with class.. I really like Sleepy Brown singing " I Cant Wait" that seemed to have flowed the best throughout the show. He actually looked real nice in his all white and smoooooth swagger. Then there was Janelle Monáe's performing "Sincerely Jane", this was phenomenal. With her funky haircut, slender frame, and her ballerina outfit she fit in perfectly with the other ballerina on stage. I will actually pay another ticket to go and see just her perform. Overall this NEW collaboration was a good idea. Goes to show that the typical rapper can think outside of the box. The show was nice and the ticket was well priced. A little over $30 to spend time with friends, and enjoy a mini concert with ballet. Sorry o if you missed it:)

FRIDAY

"Its Friday Its Friday Its the end of the week the last day, Hey its on you so what you going to do?" "I'm going to get my chill on and my relax on"

I have skipped work 2 days straight. I actually had a very important training session today. I refused to go. What can I say.... should have went but, oh well. ON another note, what plans do you all have out there? I am a bit moody so I hope I get out of my funk and leave the house this weekend. Want to write more but like I said a bit moody, so maybe more later..

Late to work

I woke up on time this morning. When I walked into the bathroom to jump in the shower I looked at the mirror and saw the bags under my eyes and immediately turned around and went back to bed. I did not wake up again until 8:30am. At that time I decided I can still go and work a couple of hours. As I showered I kept thinking "is this life?" I graduated this past May. I wanted to take sometime out and travel, have fun, pretty much chill before I jump back into 4 more years of school. That worked for the first 6 months after graduation. But of course in order to travel the country I had to leave my contract work that is not consistent and get a full time job that pays consistent cash. The job happened to be in my field of study so I was content. Then the long hours started to hit me. No more waking up AROUND 9am getting to work AROUND 10am leaving AROUND 4pm. I am tired all the time, I don't have the energy to go out. When I complain to my friends they tell me that I will get use to it. Well here it is 6 months on the job and I have not gotten use to it. I know this type of structure will help me in the long run but is it by force to work 40+ hours per week to survive. I reject it o, especially at a job which is not my ultimate career. I have my side hustle going on that brings in cash but this full-time has benefits, 401k, stock options, insurance(The AMERICAN DREAM). What to do? I am tempted to quit next month and enjoy my last couple of months before school starts..... I look like I work long hours, and that is not good:(

Concert

Am I the only one who wants to go to the Jay Z and May J. Blige Concert? None of my friends were interested. Well maybe they were but the steep ticket price was holding us all back... I like Jay Z, but I really want to hear Mary sing: "Like sweet morning dew/ I took one look at you/ And it was plain to see/ You were my destiny/ With you I'll spend my time/ I'll dedicate my life/ I'll sacrifice for you/ Dedicate my life for you,"
Unfortunately, I didn't buy a ticket and the concert is today. (:

Any of my loyal friends want to buy me a last minute ticket?:-)

Speaking of loyal friends, I have over extended myself again. One of my newer friends who I met recently.... just moved out of her live in arrangement with her man. SO now that she is on her own she cannot sleep a full night. She is always on the edge and very sensitive about all comments. Lately she sent me a text at 2am. The good is that I keep my phone far from me when I sleep, but the worst is that she is textn me bull crap. Last night I got a text about how she needs to feel more appreciated by her friends( indirectly me?) . What are you talking about?!? When I saw the text this morning, I was disappointed with her. So being the direct person I am I had to call her and address it. I told her that if she is feeling that bad then she needs to move back in with the guy and stop disturbing other people( I know a bit on the mean side, but she pushed me there) I then called back and was a little nicer, I need to understand that she is going through emotional withdrawal and this is when you need your friends( even if we have not known each other that long) So when you are reading this, know that I am your girl no man is worth the amount of tears that are being spilled nor the sleepless nights.

Getting in on the Buyers market

I have been looking for a house for about 7 months. Not as my primary residence but as an investment property( because you know a good Nigerian girl cannot leave her fathers house until she is married:) ) Since it is a buyers market, I thought that it would be a good time to get in. The bad thing is a lot of other investors were thinking the same thing. So the process has taken longer thn expected. I have seen over 50 foreclosure properties, and let me tell you some have been a great buy and others have been a nightmare. Can you imagine, people who are not paying there mortgage will get a foreclosure notice, and instead of packing there things up nicely and moving out they will rip out the bathtub, punch holes in the walls, pour oil on the carpet to name the least.!. What type of nonsense is that? I guess they feel if they cannot have it then the bank will have to spend a lot of money to fix it.

Then there are the properties that have been marked down 30k less than there comparable. The amount of work that needs to be done in the house doesn't even equal 5k. These are the great buys, but since I am a little fish in the buyers market my offers are hardly even answered. So this process has has made me tired. I will see a house that I really like, but cannot reach an agreement with the seller then I feel disappointed. Honestly I am ready to give up. Does not look like my aspirations to get rich like Donald Trump is going to work out.......

Monday morn

Can anyone tell me how I can avoid leaning on my elbow!!?!! They are getting so dark. My left elbow is 10 times darker then my right. I need to take action. This is not cute at all.

Monday morn....

I am starting this blog from inspiration of one of my close friends. She knows that I am writing a book and this will give me an outlet to express some of my day to day thoughts as well as sharpen my writing skills. So if you see some grammatical errors, understand I probably did not proofread it:) I do have a college degree(lol). That being said it is Monday... early Monday morning to be exact.
On my way to work this morning the gossip I heard this weekend was bothering me. I heard through the grapevine that an older woman in my community does not come out and support my events because she thinks I know to many men to be such a young chic. I was highly pissed when I heard this because this is the same woman that looks me up and down every time I see her like she is envious of me. I see that killing her with kindness has not worked. The hag does not realize that I am a business woman and in order for my business to flourish I have to network. Men and women!! The mentality of some of our older generation can be very primitive. I hope our new generation does not hold on to these traits.